I was doing a little research today....
because I've always had some bit of overwhelm and anxiety from parenting small children, but lately the anxiety has been particularly high. And even though there have been times where I have felt completely alone, I know that I'm not alone. I know there are others out there like me who have had Anxiety, and whose anxiety has increased by like 1,000 since they became parents and I wanted to know why. Why does making and raising little people increase anxiety? So, I came across this article -
And it got me thinking - is it really an Anxiety disorder? Or are we suffering from what could simply be called....motherhood.
(or fatherhood...anxiety doesn't discriminate.)
So, I took the article, and I re-titled it 12 Signs you are a parent! Check it out - give it a like, and please share it because I know the message is one that many parents need to hear <3
You can find the video here -
What's your Superbowl?
Hint: It doesn't have to be sports related!
Have you ever felt like everyone else is "winning" and you are stuck doing the same ol' stuff day in and day out? Like you're left behind....you may be doing all the right things, you may be doing exactly what "they" say you "should" do, and yet - you're not achieving the RESULTS YOU WANT.
WHOA. Total Downer.
I'm going to encourage you to think about this - can you think of ANY sports team in history that has won 100% of every game they played? (Full disclosure, I had to Google this because I'm not the person you think of when you think Sports statistics.) I was hoping the answer was 0, but actually it is very few - the 1934 Chicago Bears, the 1942 Chicago Bears, and the 2007 New England Patriots. (Thank you Wikipedia) That's it. And that only counts the regular season, not the pre-season, where they did lose games.
Why am I talking about this? Not just because the Superbowl is this Sunday, but look at how many teams there are that have lost many games throughout the season, yet won the Superbowl anyway? EVERY OTHER WINNING TEAM IN HISTORY.
Here's my point:
1) We learn best from our failures. Without failing, we never actually learn anything. This is why football teams have practices. They run drills, they do practice games, they run plays over and over and over until they get it right - they allow the space to get it wrong. Then, they reassess and try again. You know what they don't do? They don't give up after the first time it goes wrong. They learn from the mistakes, the failures, they pick themselves up, and they try again with some tweaks.
2) And this is the most important thing - they have their TEAM, and that team has a COACH. Yep. Bottom line is this - no one can do it alone. Every single person who has accomplished anything big has had a coach/mentor/tribe walking alongside them. Supporting them, cheering for them, holding them accountable, keeping them focused and on course toward the big goal. Olympic Medalists? Have a Coach. Oprah? Has a coach. (She totally does, and I've leaned some of my tricks from him)
Remember that episode of the Brady Bunch, where Bobby and Cindy try to break the World Record in See Saw? They had to keep each other awake, the whole Bunch helped feed them (I never saw how they went to the bathroom, but that's a different blog....) and Mike was their Coach. They didn't break the record, but that's ok, because they still had each other and they tried their best....my point is even Bobby and Cindy couldn't make a go of it alone.
So my question for you is - What's your Superbowl? What is your "Bobby and Cindy" dream?
I've heard people ask "What would you do if you knew you could not fail?" And say things like "Failure is not an option." And I'm going to call B.S. on that way of thinking, because, as we've just learned, failure is how we learn best. Failure is what guides us and drives us to succeed - IF we are allowed the space to fail safely, and we are able to re-frame it into something that acts as a guide, a learning experience and a growth opportunity. And if we stay the course and (to quote Dory) Keep Swimming.
Remember what driving was like before we had GPS on our phones? I don't know about you, but I got lost all. the. time. (I still manage to get lost even with the GPS sometimes, but I maintain that's my kids fault for distracting me into singing Jojo Siwa or Hamilton at the top of our lungs and not for any other reason than that.) But I also always ended up at my destination. Maybe not in the way I expected, but I always found it. Every single time. And when I did, I was even more proud of myself for finding it. Life is the same way. It has twists and turns and roadblocks all over the place. What matters is how you deal with them.
Your victory will be sweeter when you get there after losses, failures, and mistakes. Easy is boring. Your victory is sweeter when the journey is hard.
So, what's your big, crazy dream? What would you do if you knew you might fail a bit along the way, but you knew in the end, you would also succeed?
And, what kind of support do you need to get there? What kind of coach do you need?
I'd love to talk with you about how I can help you reach your wildest, craziest dreams. Whether it's weight loss, a career goal, a health challenge, or a life transition, I am here to support you, cheer for you, hold you accountable, and help you find your way when you get lost. You can send me an email, or click on "Book appt" here -
No B.S. Let's change your story. Make it happen. With loads of love. You're a badass. Go get 'em.
Sharla Mandere is an Empowerment Coach helping busy people live empowered lives through healthy living. An empowered life is one that is rooted in fun and fabulousness, where you call your own shots, and choose wisely and confidently for yourself and your family.